Why Leaning Into Conflict Is Good For Your Relationship (And For Your Conscious Masculinity)

Avoiding conflict in your relationship and calling it a healthy conscious relationship is not it.

I get it, being a conflict with your wife, or girlfriend sucks; you always feel like you're doing something wrong, you can't win no matter what you do, and it's just plain exhausting.

Here's the deal homie- avoiding it is causing more of it.  All the strategies you have cultivated to steer the ship away from conflict are pushing you deeper into the storm.

Conflict is your relationship asking for more from you, it's a moment in time when the old way stops working and it's time for a level up.

You working so hard to "stay the same" is moving you backwards and fighting the natural evolution of the love you're a part of.

Conflict avoidant >>> Love avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Connection avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Intimacy avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Success avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Money avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Truth avoidant.

Conflict avoidant >>> Self avoidant.

Conflict avoidance comes from deep rooted belief and inability to handle and hold your own pain; that's the bottom line. It's massive lack of self trust.

When conflict presents itself to you the immediate response in you conscious (or unconscious) mind is: "this is going suck and it's gonna hurt, and I can't handle that."

So what happens is that the "avoid at all costs" program starts running. Bob and weave, duck and run, evacuate.

This leads to all kinds of dis-ease and repercussions in our life; people pleasing; self-emasculation, and losing your masculine frame in the relationship to name a few.

With the knowing that conflict leads to more love, to deeper connection, to greater intimacy, and to deeper knowing of self, there's no real reason to avoid it.

Yes, it's uncomfortable, no question about it, it will be uncomfortable, and the more that you can handle it, lean into it, and be in it with your woman in that conflict, no matter who created it, the more power and trust and safety and love exists for both of you on the other side.

The conflict (life) avoidance game will keep playing out as long as your pain is not processed and alchemize in your body. Until you do that, you don't have the range and capacity to hold conflict, so you will avoid it.

Range, capacity, and staying power are the hallmarks of conscious masculinity.

The safety and trust from the woman that you're in front of is going to diminish every time there's conflict and you waver or avoid.

You WILL lose points in her book. That's it, bottom line.

The deal is handle your pain, alchemize your pain, learn to hold your pain and you will learn to hold conflict and therefore experience more love, connection, growth, and intimacy.

From being in and moving through conflict together you building the foundation of trust and safety in bot of your nervous systems.

The time to step up into our highest form of conscious masculine leadership is here.

Conscious masculinity is the tip of the spear into your business, your love life, your self care and how you penetrate the world.

Reply to this email and request a call to explore working together in my 1-1 conscious masculinity mentorship.

This 6 month container is deep; you will be invited to look under some very big and dark stones.

It's expensive; the investment starts at $30k.

It's expansive; you will experience levels of wealth, love, connection and fulfillment on the other side that you can't even fathom.

It's life changing; you will not be the same man that you are now.

With love and gratitude,

Sam Gibbs Morris

Conscious Masculinity Mentor + Relationship Coach

Men's Work | Psychedelics | Spirituality | Yogic Leadership

Co-Founder - āletheia breath + sound™