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Before I begin, please know that I understand I'm not speaking to every man's experience and I honor all the different experiences that can exist with trauma and the healing of trauma. What I'm speaking to here is something that I have seen and worked through with some of my clients, and to a certain extent in my own personal work.

There's a side effect of the healing of trauma that, from what I've seen with several of my clients, usually happens once they've worked through the bulk of the trauma. It can also be present while working through the trauma, I see it more on the other side of the healing though.

I see some pretty heavy grief.

Grief of the perceived "time wasted" in the trauma.

The grief of the broken relationships that fell prey to the trauma.

The grief of "I should have known better".

And the grief that comes with the shame connected to a lot of trauma.

The truth is that it is all "PERCEIVED", and it's a way for us to continue to navigate the familiar hell that was our trauma.

Trauma has a life force and just like any other life force it has a will to live.  When we heal the trauma and its life force begins to fade, it (and our ego) will look for any openings it can find.

I truly believe there is no such thing as wasted time or wrong decisions (and that's a topic for another day).

Trauma(s) can cause relationships to fall completely apart, that is a fact.

The grief comes from not having the experience that you desired to have or feeling like you could have (or should have) done something differently.

The hook of the grief is that once you're through the trauma, you start feeling like, and asking yourself: "Why did it take me so long?, I wasted all my 20s, 30s, and 40s stuck in a trauma response."

Or...

"I wasted all my 30s in a bad, relationship that was totally unfulfilling an every level."

Or...

"I could have been so much more successful or financially better off if I hadn't spent 10 years fumbling through trauma."

Then grief sets in about the wasted time, then you start beating yourself up for not "figuring it out" sooner.

The truth is that the experience that you had was exactly what you needed, and you got through it exactly as, and when you were supposed to. Exactly when you were ready to truly move on, it could not have gone down any other way. Period.

Everything is always and in all ways divinely orchestrated for your highest evolution.

The challenge and the invitation for you is to understand and TRUST that everything's happening in divine order.

Everything is happening FOR you, not TO you.

I know it doesn't always feel like this and I honor and celebrate you for your strength to walk through those times.

When you feel like time has been wasted, it is a reverberation, or rebound effect of the trauma.

All this stuff was handled exactly the way it was supposed to by you and by Spirit, exactly when you were supposed to handle it.

And now you're free, and THAT IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING TO BE.

The time to step up into your highest form of conscious masculine leadership is here.

Conscious masculinity is the tip of the spear into your business, your love life, your self care and how you penetrate the world.

Reply to this email with 'I'm Ready' to book a call and explore working together in my 1-1 conscious masculinity mentorship.

This 6-month container is deep; you will be invited to look under some very big and dark stones that have previously been hidden.

It's expensive; the investment starts at $30k.

It's expansive; you will experience levels of wealth, love, connection and fulfillment on the other side that you can't even fathom.

It's life-changing; you will not be the same man that you are when we begin.

With love and gratitude,

Sam Gibbs Morris

Conscious Masculinity Mentor + Relationship Coach

Men's Work | Psychedelics | Spirituality | Yogic Leadership

Founder - The Conscious Outlaw Kollective™

Co-Founder - āletheia breath + sound™